Part of the package?

COLD DAY IN NEW YORK CITY!

I know... the cartoon is kind of f*cked up...

Here goes nothing...

In Laws have an infamous reputation for a reason I guess. I have had an experience with every member of the boyfriends immediate family that has left a bad taste in my mouth. His family is not big, he has a mom, a dad, and a sister. The latest happened with the sister. 

This year I am unemployed. 

I am trying to help out with the wedding as much as I could- I don't want to go into debt over the wedding. 

I am going to Ireland for 3 weeks for my 25th birthday with THAT GIRL. (WOO HOO) 

Usually I splurge on whoever I am dating when I can. Last year I spent $500 on him getting him the game system he wanted plus accessories. This year my budget was 120-150 max. I felt bad my limit was so low so I had to make it special!He had been dying for THE DARK KNIGHT DVD since it was in the theaters. He spoke about it for months and imitated the joker on a almost daily basis. It came out on DVD early December- PERFECT! (I know, its sad the thing I was most excited about getting was valued at 20 bucks lol). Last year for Christmas his sister got him a video game that he hasn't even unwrapped. I decided to put a list together for them of things he wanted so their money is well spent rather then wasted. In the email I listed the three things I bought him, and specified that they DO NOT get them. I then listed over 10 games and movies he wanted.

His mother is going away for Christmas so they went over this Saturday to have dinner and exchange presents. I flaked- I prefer to go hang out with my sisters... (I guess you will see why, his family and I are very different).He gets home extremely excited that his sister got him THE DARK KNIGHT! WTF?! I asked him to tell me what else she got him... Nothing else that was on the list was purchased... The one thing that was purchased was one of the three things I specified not to get. Its not like they didn't know, if you can't tell from my blogs- things I emphasize I write in capital letters.I couldn't... I lost it.

I cry when I am angry.

• His mother wrote me an unnecessarily nasty email- I didn't cry.
• His sister got him THE DARK KNIGHT- I cried.

No, I didn't cry over the DVD itself. His sister pissed me off. I didn't know how much clearer I could have been about not getting him the three things I listed without treating them like idiots (I hate it when people do it to me). I was very exited about giving him that DVD, I knew how bad he wanted it... I would even mess with him that someone might have gotten it for him but couldn't tell him who.

I couldn't believe I was suppose to be marrying into this family. Family is very important to me and I am not comfortable with being considered part of his. Their family morals are a little different then the ones my parents raised me with I guess. (Separate blog topic ?)I have my opinions because of things they have done to him- but I will only list the ones that involve me:

• His sister pulled this stunt. She doesn't think he is happy with me.
• His mother disagreed with something I did and decided the best way to respond to my apology (which I didn't have to do) was to write an insulting email. (She now sees she was out of line and apologized).
• I've made two trips out to Canada- both times his father has decided to not see us. I've met the man once- he was forced by his ex wife (bfs mother) to come and MEET the girl his son was suppose to marry.

I don't tell my family about most of my problems with the boyfriend but they saw me crying on the phone- I had to tell them what was going on. They enjoy the boyfriend but tell me that you marry the family as well as marrying the man. Lord, help me.

My mother sat me down for a talk- she said she wanted to stay out of it (which she has been doing well with lately) but that as a mother needed to get this off of her chest. In a Hispanic family when a man marries a woman it is sort of like the family is giving away the daughter to the family of the man... In this case she is not comfortable leaving me in the hands of that family. WOMP WOMP WOMP.